Not worrying about something doesn’t mean that you don’t care … so if you don’t worry, what should you do? Do you believe that you should feel guilty? Let’s move into the present moment for a moment. What does feeling guilty do for you? How does it help you? How does it allow you to be more authentic?

How does it help you be a better…
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Emotional states, like worrying and feeling guilty, are like weights or sandbags that you pick up and carry with you throughout the day. Think about that before you object too loudly. Emotional work and stress is no different than physical work and stress. What do you do with those (emotional or physical) sandbags you’re lugging around when you actually have to do something relevant or important to you or someone else? Do you put them down? If they were physical objects you would. But where to put them? Your emotional sandbags are not so easily set aside, and alter your encounter, your work, your help, and/or your relationships. They will hurt you. Is that your goal? Is that your plan? Well, regardless, that is what’s happening. Yes really. That’s what’s happening. Is that okay with you?

Get out of yourself. Get out of your mind. Let go of those debilitating negative emotions by: a) helping someone else and focusing intensely on them and their challenges; b) looking for situations and circumstances that appear to be devastating, and comparing them to your own situation; c) going and doing something complex and challenging so that all of your mind is required for (and engaged in) the exercise; d) praying and meditating; e) engaging a trusted adviser or a professional in order to receive honest, open counselling.

True warriors know that when they are infected, beset, or plagued by negativity, they must take action sooner rather than later in order to shed this debilitating condition. Do the compassionate worry excessively? Are the sympatheticplagued ceaselessly by guilt? Simply put … no.

There are many degrees of emotions, but that doesn’t mean we need embrace them all and/or use any of them to excess. Pay attention, be aware, and shed that which impedes your progress, but do not fear your natural emotional response. Embrace it, acknowledge it, and let it go … as you move towards your goal!

You are warriors, and with emotional balance, a calm mind, a peaceful nature, and a serene countenance, you will be a welcome and valued member of any place, group, team, or population. You will be far better prepared to accept your luck, recognize opportunity, and embrace success than they. So it is written.