Why are we the ones who have to change? Can’t those around us change and fit themselves to us? Of course they can change, but why would they? What is their motivation? Your motivation is never someone else’s motivation, so why would anyone change in order to fit themselves to you … even if they loved you and couldn’t live without you? The only person you can change is you, and even though you can change yourself, it is highly unlikely that you will—even when there is significant motivation present. What does it take to cause you to reinvent yourself? The real answer is divine intervention, but how real a possibility is that for you? Could you even believe that for yourself? Then let’s not go there. Let’s just change ourselves under our own self-motivated power. There are two ways to do that. One way is to change what you do, and as a result, change your thinking. The other way is to change your thinking, and as a result, change your behaviour. Either way, you will change. The challenge is locking in that new thinking or new behaviour … and for that you need help.

Here comes the tough part: asking for help, admitting you cannot do it alone, and needing additional help or resources. This is the key that allows the true warrior to achieve greatness. True warriors are not afraid to ask for help; in fact, they love the opportunity to involve other sources of support and strength so they can break through to the next level of performance,growth, or spiritual insight. You are warriors and by changing yourselves (for the better) you shed that which prevents you from getting to where you want to go. That, my friend, is the reason you have to change yourself, and why it is irrelevant for those around you to change themselves for your benefit. By changing yourself, you can turn your adversity into your greatest strength. With help, you can and will prevail. So it is written.